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Weeding “the Field”

In XX & XY on February 20, 2011 at 5:31 am

XX vs. Type Bruno

My high school best friend just got married to her high school sweetheart of seven years last night, on her 23rd birthday – it was a beautiful union. I, on the other hand, have not yet experienced a relationship that surpassed 7 months (or half that, actually)… so… I’m not at all qualified to talk about (serious, romantic) relationships or the sort, but I write about what I know, and I know the market.

You’d be mistaken to think that I’m a commitmophobe/commitaphobe, because my art owns my heart. Instead of boys, I chase my dreams, wherever they lead me, and it’s difficult to find a partner who’s as daring, driven, or unattached. 8 years and counting, you can say that I’ve tread through my share of fields. By virtue of my travels, I can even talk about it on a global level… In fact, a close friend suggested that I should start an anonymous blog for the sole purpose of recording my (colourful/aka terrible, around-the-world) dating experiences – something along the lines of “the secret diaries of a modern nomad”, or “the globe-trotting serial-dater”… He thinks it’ll be a huge hit – coming from someone in the news/media industry, I was flattered. But that’s not the point.

Jane Austen may have given me unrealistic expectations of love, but “field-training” certainly killed my naivety. I can snatch out the cheaters, the liars, and the unfaithful quicker and more accurate than most of my friends, certainly, most of those in-relationships. I can drop this tip with regret, that when there is a discrepancy between the “truths” offered by your honey vs. your friend, and you dismiss your friend…chances are, you’re being played. Nonetheless, it varies by case.

The market is complicated nowadays. What does it mean to be “together” or “dating”? Can you “see” someone else when you are already “seeing someone”? Is “dealing” an exclusive thing? So many loose definitions, a dictionary would come in handy here. Generally speaking, ladies hate the gray-zone, but gray-zone seems to be green-zone for a good amount of men out there. No commitments, no strings attached, no obligations … at least that’s the way they’ve got it worked out in their heads – on both ends.

Speaking of green, I’m anti-recycling on the field. Find a new patch – it ain’t hard. Moving on is good for you – and those around you. “See” a girl, then take the virginity of her close friend? Messaging the two of them on the same night years later because you’re that needy? Bruno, you’re a model of a cheap pathetic douche. I should have un-friended you 4 years ago when I caught you lying the first time. Just GTFO of my life – you’re polluting the field.

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